And now, it’s time for the third and final installment of “Lessons from Frozen!” In this post, I discuss a very important point that Frozen makes — a point that really needs to be heard in this day and age. (By the way, just because this is the last of this “trilogy” of posts does not mean I’ll never write about this film again. Just so you know. :P)
Everyone has heard the phrase “nobody’s perfect” countless times in their lives. It seems rather obvious, doesn’t it? We’re human, and being imperfect is part of our fallen human nature. So if that’s true, I have a question: where the heck did the idea of a “perfect companion” come from?
This idea has taken hold of today’s culture. Single (and sometimes not) people everywhere are constantly talking about what their ideal spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, or what have you would be like. Many of them even make lists of their traits. “He has to be tall, dark, and handsome.” “She has to have blonde hair and blue eyes.” “He has to be able to sing and cook.” “She has to be a good kisser.”
Many people are guilty of doing something like this at some point in their lives. They create a personal fantasy in which, someday, their “perfect companion” will come into their lives and sweep them off of their feet. Happiness. Rainbows. Unicorns. Blah blah blah. You get the point.
Why do people do this? People desire love, of course. Everyone desires to be loved, as I pointed out in Part 1 of these posts. Everyone desires to “be completed” by someone — a perfect individual who will satisfy all their emotional, physical, and spiritual needs. Siiigh. It sounds soooooo romantic, doesn’t it?
Well, maybe so. However, I hate to burst everyone’s bubble, but I’m gonna lay down the truth right now.
There is no such thing as a “perfect companion.”
NO ONE on this earth will ever completely satisfy us. NO ONE on this earth will always be there for us. NO ONE on this earth will completely understand and relate to us.
Thanks, Mr. Sunshine, you might be thinking. Way to lift everyone’s spirits.
But wait. Notice how I said no one on this earth will ever complete us. As it turns out, it is God that people are truly longing for. There is a God-shaped hole in everyone’s heart. When people try to fill it with anything that is less than God — meaning anything but God — they are left unsatisfied.
Men and women complement each other. They do not complete each other. Only God completes people.
That is an important point, but it’s secondary to the main point of this post, which is this: Frozen makes a very clear and wonderful message concerning the problem of “the perfect companion.” This message mainly takes root in the rousing number called “Fixer Upper.”
Before we get to the song, though, a little bit of background. Anna meets Hans and “falls in love” with him early in the film, as discussed in Part 1. He seems perfect — handsome, funny, romantic, a good dancer, etc. (These are traits which probably have appeared on many people’s “perfect companion” list.) She’s ready to marry him as soon as he proposes to her.
Soon, though, reality slaps Anna in the face when Elsa refuses to bless the marriage. An accident happens, Elsa runs away, and Anna goes after her, as we all know. On her way up the mountain, Anna meets a guy who sells ice by the name of Kristoff.
Kristoff, to Anna, is nearly the opposite of handsome Prince Hans. Kristoff speaks somewhat roughly, treats his pet reindeer like a person, and says that all men pick their noses and eat their boogers. Ew. Not to mention, he’s just like Elsa in that he simply cannot believe that she got engaged to someone she had just met the very same day. Anna can’t wait to reach her sister and thus be rid of her earthy mountain guide.
As the journey up the mountain continues, however, the two do begin to grow more tolerant of each other. Still, though, Anna is in love with Hans and she can’t wait to get back to him and marry him. But when Anna is struck in the heart by Elsa’s powers, Kristoff takes her to see his friends — the “love experts,” as he referred to them earlier.
These love experts turn out to be a troop of rocky, mossy, big-nosed trolls, and they’re absolutely thrilled to see that Kristoff has brought a girl. He hastens to clarify the situation, but they don’t seem to listen. When Anna also insists that there is nothing between her and Kristoff, the trolls begin their song — “Fixer Upper.”
In the song, they ask Anna why she’s “holding back from such a man,” and proceed to list several of Kristoff’s less-than-perfect qualities. Among them are the “pear-shaped, square-shaped weirdness of his feet;” that though he “washes well, he always ends up sort of smelly;” “that he’s socially impaired;” and “his unmanly blondness.”
“So he’s a bit of a fixer upper / so he’s got a few flaws…”
“So he’s a bit of a fixer upper / but this we’re certain of:
You can fix this fixer upper up with a little bit of love”
This becomes the glue that holds the message of their song together. The bridge goes like this:
“We’re not saying you can change him, ’cause people don’t really change
We’re only saying that love’s a force that’s powerful and strange
People make bad choices when they’re mad or scared or stressed
But throw a little love their way… and you’ll bring out their best
True love brings out the best”
Now that’s very interesting. How many times have you heard of people wanting to get into a relationship with someone who’s not quite up to standard, and they say: “Oh, I’ll change him/her!” The message here, though, is that you can’t change other people. What you can do, however, is bring out the best in others by truly loving them.
And finally, the clincher:
“Everyone’s a bit of a fixer upper / that’s what it’s all about
Father, sister, brother / we need each other to raise us up and round us out
Everyone’s a bit of a fixer upper / but when push comes to shove
The only fixer upper fixer that can fix up a fixer upper is true love”
Wow. I want to give whoever wrote this song a cookie.
Read those lyrics! Everyone’s a bit of a fixer upper! Everyone’s got a few flaws! But while that may be true, we can build each other up and push each other to become the best we can be through love. True love. What a great message for today’s culture.
Anna finds out that the trolls are right. After she discovers Hans’s plot, and that Kristoff loves her, she falls for him, which she never would have dreamed of earlier in the film. Sure, he’s got a few flaws. He’s not perfect. But neither is she. And they can both help each other grow by loving each other to the best of their ability.
I am so, so grateful to Disney for making this film. In the midst of a culture that promotes the idea of a “perfect companion,” along comes a film that happily proclaims that nobody is perfect. Everyone’s got flaws. Everyone’s a bit of a fixer upper.
And that’s okay. Because true love brings out the best in everyone.
Bravo, Disney. Bravo.
That’s all for “Lessons from Frozen!” I hope you’ve enjoyed these posts and maybe learned a thing or two from them.
Got anything to add? Comment, please! I’d love to hear from you. :D
That’s all for now. Until next post, friends!